To practise self-forgiveness is to train yourself to accept responsibility for your actions, even if they were deeply flawed or caused you tremendous pain.
Worry and self-punishment will only lead to more chaos if we can't figure out how to pardon ourselves and others.
Saying "I'm sorry" opens the way to taking responsibility and finding safety in our ability to turn our weakness into a strength.
To practise self-compassion means to train yourself to speak to yourself with kindness and understanding.
Feeling guilty is useful for making necessary adjustments, but it's not a suitable permanent residence.
It's possible to pardon yourself while also assisting others. This goes beyond mere altruism. Decisions must be made.
If you're looking for inner calm, opening up to others is a great place to start.